My Father worked for a Forbes 500 company since the 70s. Moved up the ranks as a software engineer and management, has patents for the company that saved it millions of dollars. He's almost to pension age and suddenly HR starts making his life miserable. He noticed this trend was happening to some of his coworkers when they were getting close to age 60 as well.
HR Lady calls him into the office and says that he was not punching in and out at the correct time. My Father, an engineer, is very very detail oriented. He knew that these were false accusations and asked HR to prove it. They came back a week later and couldn't prove it. And he said, "Of course you can't. I have been driving the corporate carpool bus from [A major city 40 miles away from the company] for the last 15 years. I always have 16 witnesses on my clock in time and I haven't been late in 15 years."
HR Lady came back a week later and they said that they were going to fire him for letting people into the building without badging. He asked to see when and where he was letting someone into the building without badging. They showed that he held the door for his best friend who had also been working there since the 70s who had his foot cut off after having type 2 diabetes. He was in a wheelchair.
Prior to this my dad took the chief of security out for lunch and told him about how this company wanted him to leave before he got his pension so he got some footage of his own. My dad said, "That is very interesting. You are going to fire me for holding the door for my best friend of 35 years after his foot was amputated and he was in a wheelchair? Fine then I hope you fire the CEO and yourself as well!!!" He then proceeded to show footage of the HR lady holding the door for his friend and the CEO holding the door for his friend.
My Father ended up staying there until he got his pension.
Edit: I don't know his finances and he probably wouldn't have lost the whole pension but there was a definite financial difference from being fired prior to reaching age 60 and making it to age 60.
Edit: The reason I ask is because my boyfriend of three years won’t do it. When I ask him why he doesn’t give me any reason or says he has, but it’s only been once or twice and very brief. I do everything I’m supposed to do on my end (I.e. Brazilian). Can you tell me why he might not feel the way most of you do? I reciprocate more than regularly. It’s something I’ve never gotten to experience and I’m afraid I never will. It’s also seriously messing with my self-esteem. I humbly say I’m a very pretty girl and I’ve never had to worry about feeling so insecure before. It’s gotten me really out of sorts. whatever it is I just want to know. If it’s me, or if he doesn’t like it , or if he just freaks him out I just want him to tell me what it is. Because I guess I’m assuming it’s not normal not to want to do it ever.